The Players Corner Archive

I recently became engaged and finding it difficult to adjust to being part of a "couple". I enjoy time spent with my fiance, but feel guilty if I want to do other things.

This relationship business is tougher than it looks. I don't know too many long-term couples, and was wondering if someone could tell me about some "great couples" and what was it that made them special.

Clueless About Couples

Dear Clueless,

Thank you for your letter and I hope I didn't edit too much of it. In regards to time spent with your man, I believe that you have to do what is right for YOU. If you want to spend time with friends, or do other things, you should have the freedom to do so. The term "absence makes the heart goes fonder" can be very true, just as long as the absence doesn't turn into neglect. If one is spending too much time apart and getting complaints, it's probably time to take a look at the relationship.

The question about "great couples" is a good one. It can get a little boring if the couple is too "kissy, kissy", or if they bicker all the time. Personally, I think a great couple are two people that are fun to be around, and obviously enjoy each other's company without being too mushy about it. The more I think about this, I realize that I don't really know too many "long-term" couples.

I was close friends with a really fun couple that just seemed perfect for each other. They were fun, knowledgeable about the history of the Lands, and just had that "thing"... where they "clicked", and you really can't explain why.

Hopefully, someone else here could tell you about some "great couples" and what it was that made it all work!

Thanks for writing, and all the best to you.
Summer reg

My best relationship was between my last fiance and me. We weren't very mushy in public, and we were always hunting together or doing something fun along those lines. We rarely argued, and we were great friends over the instant messenger. But what made it best, I think was the fact that at times I would be away for up to a week at a time and it was always better to come back to her. As Summer quoted, "Absence makes the heart grow fonder." I believe this to be true within certain boundaries. The only reason we broke up is because I left for about 3 months, and it was I who had grown distant during my absence.

I would list a few great couples, but I think they all recently split up for one reason or another... *shrugs* I pray that you can learn to love, but learn to love enough to let go as well. If you feel that you can't not be with him/her then perhaps you need to rethink your stature with the relationship.

Also, try to keep things interesting between the two of you... I know I pulled some hilarious stunts while I was with Seserous. *vaguely remembers playing the part of the cross-dresser when a mummy dropped a skirt*

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Caels Onae'Rae
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