Missing In Action...

12:24 PMWell, I have a question and would appreciate some feedback. Recently, I was "gone" for a bit and upon my return, I was surprised to discover that my absence seemed to have upset and hurt someone. I know it would be common courtesy to tell those close to me that I would be gone, but my absence wasn't planned. And I didn't realize that I would be gone for as long as I was.

I have mixed feelings about all this. It's nice to be missed, but I hate the feeling of having to "report" in. On the other hand, I know that in our "world" it's common for people to just disappear forever, or for months at a time. So anytime someone is gone for a few days, people can start to wonder if they will ever return.

What is the "norm" as far as absences in a relationship?

Summer
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02:36 PMI think that in GS, people tend to get really wrapped up in a relationship, not just in character, but also out of it. I'm not sure on what your definition of "gone for a bit" is, but a few weeks in my eyes in no big deal. Aerie used to have a boyfriend in GS who would disappear for 3 months or more at a time, and expect to come back to find her still waiting. Um, sorry. And yep, I was kinda hurt, because if he was gonna be gone that long and wanted me to wait for him, he coulda told me.

When you are in a relationship, I tend to spend the majority of my time with that person, and when they are gone, I get bored and in someways, lonely. You don't owe that person anything. But courtesy says, that if you are close, you should try and get some warning to them you are going to be gone. Even if it's Email, then your character can at least say, that they received a message from that person that they are gone on a trip over the mountains, in Ta'Vaalor, off in the Sea of Fire, or whatever.

Just my 2 cents,

Aerienne reg

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