The Players Corner Archive

I'm new and I can't seem to make any friends. I go days without speaking to anyone. I'm not looking for a serious relationship, but it would be nice to have a special friend. People seem to already have their groups of friends, and can't be bothered with me. What can I do?

Lonesome In The Landing

Dear Lonesome,

I can sure relate, I didn't have friends when I landed here, either. I don't know what your profession is, but if you're a rogue, spend some time in the East Tower. If you're an empath, Town Square Center, or the crypt in the Graveyard are good places. Hmm, I'm not sure where the rest of the professions gather, but I would suggest that you find an area that you're comfortable at and make it "your" spot. After a few days of visiting your special area, someone may take notice.

Another suggestion is to try saying "hi" to anyone that stops for a moment in the area where you're hunting. I know when I hunted nymphs, there were several young people in the area, and they were always eager to chat.

If you get a chance, read through some of the posts here and make note of some of the names. I know I would be happy to show you around, or talk to you if you're in the Landing, and I'm sure several others here would do the same.

Good luck to you,
Summer

[This message has been edited by Summerlyn (edited 01-30-2002).] reg

As soon as I started playing I jumped right into making friends. The main technique I used was simply to talk to everyone I stumbled across. Be careful though! Some people in the lands are not very good people to be around.

If you really can't seem to get anyone to talk to you, you can always try the I'm-psychotic-and-I'm-Gonna-Kill-You-All approach... At least it worked for me towards the end of my days, anyhow.

Most people in the lands seem to flock to people who can be funny without being overbearing and annoying. Of course, you will always find people that are humorless. Also, make sure you stick to your character's personality, most people in the lands probably don't like change-ups. reg

An example that can take a LOT of patience:

Kneel down somewhere *near* a populated area, but not IN it. That way you won't be overlooked by the throng coming and going, but will be in the path of people wandering around.

As soon as someone drops by, type,

act searches over the ground for something.

Now, before you do that, make sure you've come up with some idea of WHAT you're searching for! It would have to be something small, or you wouldn't need to be on your knees looking for it. Perhaps a hair comb, or a ring, or a spike that fell from your spiked mace. Nothing too valuable, just some little something your character could be looking for. Nothing too common either, or someone will just give it to you and that'll be the end of it.

Eventually, if you're patient, you'll have a small group of people looking for it! If you think this is going well, you could REPORT to let the staff know you have a group looking for this thing, and if you're lucky, one of the GMs will pick up on it and join in the fun! Don't expect it though, and don't do it just for the sake of an RPA. That defeats the purpose.

reg

I was trying to think of some of the gathering spots in other towns, and realized I don't know that many!

I'm not sure if it's called Town Square in Ice Mule, but that area next to the bank. I know boxes are picked by the well in Ice. There are a couple of places for healing and picking boxes in River's Rest. In Solhaven, it seems there are two spots to pick boxes, down near the zoo, and Town Square. Is one more "official" than the other? When I visited Ta'illistim, there was some debate about picking boxes in the dais. Did that ever get resolved? I can recall one gathering spot in Ta'Vaalor, and Teras as well...can't remember where those are. Gads, I need to travel more!

Maybe someone could list the social areas in each town? I forgot to mention the Park in the Landing as another gathering spot.

Summer reg